Rainy Day's

Today it's raining. Its nice but its also annoying. Because when your carrying around a baby you have to be careful. I'm in my room watching Fear on mute and listening to my Ipod. :)

I don't even know what to write. I was thinking that maybe a great subject would be letting go and moving on. I mean come on, its raining, rain washes away the dirt and leaves it all clean.

HMM....

Lets begin.

The past.


When does one know when to move on, and hold on. It's hard because we all want to be forgiving, but some like holding on to that anger.

Fact is; some people are very pleased with being angry.

Problem with the fact for those; they also want to have people in their lives.

But; how can they keep those people around them pleased when they are always angry, they are always bringing up the past and what happened.

Another fact; its all very difficult.

I have many people that I know that are always angry,

-they bring up the cheating boyfriend, that their still dating.
-they bring up the friend that stole their boyfriend.
-they bring up the sister that treated them like shit.
Those are all example's of those situations that you need to let go of. As in forgive, forget and let go.

-the coffee that was spilled on the floor yesterday.
-the plate that was broken a month ago.
-the car crash that happened a year ago.
Those are all example's of shit you shouldn't even get mad at. Yes it caused something to be cleaned, something to be replaced, and maybe a hospital visit. But getting angry makes all those petty or serious problems out of control and then every one gets mad.

Taking in a situation in a calm manner and dealing with it delicately makes it easier to get over with and doesn't cause any further damage other than that at hand.

If someone hurt you so bad that you never want to talk to them again, let them go. Never mention them, never talk to them or anything. Remember the good but that's all.

Now if someone hurt you and your with them, whether it be as a friend or more, then you the taker backer must understand something. You taking them back is like signing a contract that says you are never to mention whatever it was that happened.

Why?

Well; hello, its really fucking easy. How can you move on with a person if all your doing is living in what was. You have to get over what they did and hope for better. You have to look towards the future and hope that they don't

-cheat again
-hit you again
-gamble again
-talk about you behind your back again
-lie to you again

Its good to be aware, you know don't harass them with the past, don't even mention, but don't be ignorant either. You could do both. But keep it to yourself and relax. Meditation is a great way to help get over that anxiety you feel when with someone that has hurt you but your with them. It really does.

But overall, whatever happened 50, 40, 5 years doesn't matter anymore. You only have to know that past to move towards the future. You don't need to live there or bring it up. Its a part of our memory and always will be but so is learning to ride bike for the first time. But I don't remember how I felt then, I don't seek to feel scared and nervous, I moved on. As well when my friends hurt me deeply and I never talked to them again. Its just something that happened, hurt, I learned and I moved on.

I know; its easier said than done, but it is all possible. You just have to believe things will get better, try making things better, and soon it will.

If we don't start trying to let go of what was, or what could have been, we are all just going to get angrier as life keeps going. And we all love life and love people and want to keep people. :)